Knowing when to Zip It!

Posted on by Judy E Martin

As this is now my second week at work, I am actually going out and about with other nurses and getting to meet some of the patients, which has been really nice. A couple of them have even remembered my name which is pretty special to me, The community nurses seem to have a much closer relationship with the patients and built on trust and mutual respect and it is reflected by the way the patients greet you and welcome you into their home.

By the same token, driving around between visits has also given me the opportunity to get to know some of the nurses a little better as well. As many of you know, I am quite a shy person. However, sometimes when I get a bit nervous I talk too much and start blathering on about all sorts, barely pausing for breath.

Today I was out with my boss and we got to talking about my daughter. I mentioned that she had Asperger’s and a lengthy conversation ensued in which I rabbited on about how she had got into a bit of trouble at school because of her tendency to say what she thinks. This is not always appreciated by the staff, or other children and has landed her in hot water on several occasions. My boss was pretty empathetic actually considering she hardly managed to get a word in edgeways!

Amway, this afternoon I went out with another senior nurse and we drove through town just as my daughter’s school was kicking out, so we saw a load of them milling about.The nurse made a comment about the school and I mentioned my daughter went there, and because I had told the boss earlier, I told her the story of how she got into trouble a few times. It was then she told me that her husband was a teacher there!

I was cringing because if I had known that, I would never have said anything to them about my daughter, so as not to mark her card! I asked her when she got in if she knew this teacher. Yes, he had taught her last year! Luckily, she has a different surname from me, but then I think I mentioned her first name which is not that common! Ooops!

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45 thoughts on “Knowing when to Zip It!”

  4. No harm done here, Judy. It’s not as if you have told any lies or made things up. You’ve been honest and I’m sure your boss will appreciate that very much.

    Good to hear you are feeling a lot better and that you are settling into the new job.

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  5. Judy, I agree with everyone. You did no harm! So glad you ‘re enjoying the new position, and felling better. The zipped mouth icon is so cute.
    I blather on too. It’s cute! (What?? IT’s not??? Color me shocked.) 😉
    Melinda

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    1. I am feeling a lot better thanks Melinda. The icon is a character from an old kids TV programme which was called Rainbow. The character itself was called Zippy. He is a bit of a British icon 😆

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  6. I don’t think you said anything wrong, Judy. You were talking about your daughter, you weren’t slamming the school or the teachers. You’re going to be spending a lot time with these people, you may as well be you 🙂

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      1. It’s so easy to tell you to be you but, me, I’m a social klutz, never know what to say and worry myself sick. Dumb. I should take my own advice. 🙂

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  9. Meh, no harm done. Everyone’s kid has something go awry, as kids are people. I wouldn’t think twice about it. Miss Hap will be loved by those who appreciate her refreshing honesty. The rest of them will miss out on her. At least, that’s how I look at it, being ‘refreshingly honest’ myself 😉

    I’m glad you’re enjoying your new work environment and colleagues. I seem to keep having this conversation with people lately. So much of a happy employment is determined by the people involved. Good to know you’ve got a pleasant start!

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  10. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with mentioning that your daughter has gotten into trouble–it’s not like you were bashing the school for being so bad! Quite the contrary–I would say that if the teachers find out that, as a mother, you are quite aware of how difficult things can be, they are going to appreciate that you are not one of those parents who is completely blind and thinks their offspring is perfect 😉

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  13. You know, Judy, that can really happen to everyone! How should you know? Of course you could wait before you are talking a bit more open until you know everything about everyone…… no, not really!

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  14. Oh my! But you know, this could go the other way too…..perhaps your daughter will benefit from special treatment now that they know her mother! 🙂

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  15. While I agree that sometimes zipped is a great idea, there are times when the foot just shoves itself into the mouth and at those times, just forgive yourself and move on. The teacher at your daughter’s school is not highly likely to even hear about your child and if he does he’s probably not going to: a. remember or b. go directly to your daughter and point out how her mum is talking about her behind her back!
    Don’t make yourself crazy!

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  16. Ooops! We’ve all done it! Still, you seem to have skated through unscathed. I have worked with children – or ‘Young People’ as we were asked to call them, with Aspergers, you have got to love their honesty and direct approach, it helped me to view the world differently – in a very good way.

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